xunbutu. Can't get xfce to startup correctly in vnc (no desktop or toolbars)

[Geoffrey Lane]

I want a simple tightvnc service to start xfce4.

I've tried simply using xfce4startup and also xfce-session / 
xfce4startup to get xfce4 in tightvnc's ~/.vnc/xstartup.
I get the mouse splashscreen but then no toolbars or desktop icons. I've 
looked for a howto online but
not found anything specific on ubuntus documents, forum, or google / 
xfce website so want to ask for
help.

If someone knows which ~/.vnc/xstartup I should use. Please post here or 
email me
Thanks
Geoff