Choosing a distribution

[Chris G]

I have been using Linux for many years, for the past two or three
years I have been using Slackware but recently have been looking for
something that's a bit easier to maintain and update.

I've been using Fedora 7 for the past month or two and it provides
some of what I need but also has some disadvantages.  So, I'm thinking
about an Ubuntu distribution but would like to ask a few questions:-

    I need an apache server, an ssh server and (probably) mySql.  Does
    this mean I *have* to go for Ubuntu Server?

    I don't use KDE, Gnome or Xfce (I did run Xfce for a while) but
    fvwm2, is this easy to do on Ubuntu?

    I run Vmware to run a Windows XP guest, will this sit in Ubuntu
    Server quite happily?

    Does Ubuntu force me to use sudo or can I (as I do now) just
    switch to root on the command line using 'su' and do root'ey
    things that way?

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Chris Green